Layers of discomfort
Last week I e-mailed some friends to ask for help in letting people know what I’m about to share with you. (I’ll get to that at the end.)
At first, I felt apologetic about asking people to help. My e-mails started with things like, “I hope this isn’t too much to ask,” and ended with things like “I won’t be the least bit offended if you’d prefer not to do this.”
I felt so uncomfortable asking people for help.
My discomfort wasn’t about “asking for help” in general. When I don’t understand or don’t know how to do something, I find it easy to ask for help. When I have something to do that’s beyond me, or even if I’m just tired, it’s easy to ask for help.
But this was asking for help in publicizing something.
That felt SO uncomfortable. Was it sleazy? Was it imposing? I stalled and procrastinated for days.
I had promised my mentor I would ask people to help publicize, and I knew she was working on things that were dependent on me doing my part. Finally my guilt outweighed my fear and I sent the first e-mail, keenly aware of the anxiety knot in my stomach.
Once I clicked the “send” button, I felt a little better. I sent a few other notes, still hesitant but no longer practically groveling.
And then in a moment, something changed.
I sat up straighter and thought, “Yes as a matter of fact, I am asking people to help me sell stuff. It’s really good stuff. It can help a lot of people. I want to get my gifts out into the world – not just for me but for the world.”
I remembered, with part amusement and part embarrassment, that I talk and write about how we have to get out of our comfort zone in order to break through our upper limits and be more of who we came here to be.
And then the phrase that came to me was, “shameless hustling.” Somehow that changed everything. It got fun.
I started using “Shameless hustling” in my subject line.
Almost everyone who received my apologetic messages and everyone who received my “shameless hustling” messages said “Yes.” The people who said “yes” to my “shameless hustling” messages also sent funny comments.
Something else happened. Besides saying “Yes,” people sent comments about how much they valued me. I was humbled and gratified.
I’m sharing this story in case you too find it difficult to ask for help. Perhaps people are waiting to be asked, and would feel honoured to help you.
The shameless hustling part
If you read my newsletter or follow this blog, you know that I wrote a book called Transitions: Pathways to the Life and World Your Soul Desires.
Frankly, it’s a great book if you’re experiencing some kind of transition and if you’re comfortable with words like “energy work” and “spiritual” and “channelling.” People have told me they keep it by their bed; they re-read it and have pages marked. They laughed and cried while they read it. They flip it open randomly and always find something that’s appropriate for that moment.
It has insights and practical steps and sometimes wisdom. It has a bonus section to add to your repertoire of ways you tap into your deepest inner wisdom.
Here’s what’s new. The book is now available, not only in print form, but in Kindle and audio. I’m pleased that people who prefer the convenience of Kindle rather than print books, and people who prefer to listen rather than read, are now able to enjoy the book.
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There. I said it and I’m glad.