Favourite Books

Ruth King: Healing Rage: Women Making Inner Peace Possible (2008)

November 22, 2016 by Bonnie Hutchinson Leave a Comment

On the first page of the introduction, Ruth King says, “I’ve been enraged all my life, but for half of my life I didn’t know it. I considered myself to be a high functioning professional woman.”
She had me right there. I stayed engrossed to the end.

What I found most useful was her description of “Rage Disguises.” My pattern leapt out at me. It was not a pretty picture – but my entire life (and my stories about it) lifted up and re-arranged themselves. SO valuable!

She doesn’t just leave us there. She shows how to liberate the pain underneath our rage into a life-affirming resource. Find out more from Amazon.

The Dark Side of the Light Chasers: Reclaiming Your Power, Creativity, Brilliance, and Dreams by Debbie Ford

September 29, 2016 by Bonnie Hutchinson Leave a Comment

Debbie Ford believes we each hold within us every human characteristic and emotion that exists, but we often are taught to deny or suppress some aspects of ourselves, rather than acknowledging them, giving them a healthy voice and letting them go. In The Dark Side of the Light Chasers, she shows us not only how to recognize hidden parts of ourselves but how to find the gifts they offer us. The very impulses we most fear may be the key to what is lacking in our lives.
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Shameless hustling

November 19, 2015 by Bonnie Hutchinson Leave a Comment

Layers of discomfort

Last week I e-mailed some friends to ask for help in letting people know what I’m about to share with you. (I’ll get to that at the end.)

At first, I felt apologetic about asking people to help. My e-mails started with things like, “I hope this isn’t too much to ask,” and ended with things like “I won’t be the least bit offended if you’d prefer not to do this.”

I felt so uncomfortable asking people for help.

My discomfort wasn’t about “asking for help” in general. When I don’t understand or don’t know how to do something, I find it easy to ask for help. When I have something to do that’s beyond me, or even if I’m just tired, it’s easy to ask for help.

But this was asking for help in publicizing something.

That felt SO uncomfortable. Was it sleazy? Was it imposing? I stalled and procrastinated for days.

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I had promised my mentor I would ask people to help publicize, and I knew she was working on things that were dependent on me doing my part. Finally my guilt outweighed my fear and I sent the first e-mail, keenly aware of the anxiety knot in my stomach.

Once I clicked the “send” button, I felt a little better. I sent a few other notes, still hesitant but no longer practically groveling.

And then in a moment, something changed.

Attitude adjustment

I sat up straighter and thought, “Yes as a matter of fact, I am asking people to help me sell stuff. It’s really good stuff. It can help a lot of people. I want to get my gifts out into the world – not just for me but for the world.”

I remembered, with part amusement and part embarrassment, that I talk and write about how we have to get out of our comfort zone in order to break through our upper limits and be more of who we came here to be.

And then the phrase that came to me was, “shameless hustling.” Somehow that changed everything. It got fun.

I started using “Shameless hustling” in my subject line.

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Almost everyone who received my apologetic messages and everyone who received my “shameless hustling” messages said “Yes.” The people who said “yes” to my “shameless hustling” messages also sent funny comments.

Something else happened. Besides saying “Yes,” people sent comments about how much they valued me. I was humbled and gratified.

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I’m sharing this story in case you too find it difficult to ask for help. Perhaps people are waiting to be asked, and would feel honoured to help you.

The shameless hustling part

If you read my newsletter or follow this blog, you know that I wrote a book called Transitions: Pathways to the Life and World Your Soul Desires.

Frankly, it’s a great book if you’re experiencing some kind of transition and if you’re comfortable with words like “energy work” and “spiritual” and “channelling.” People have told me they keep it by their bed; they re-read it and have pages marked. They laughed and cried while they read it. They flip it open randomly and always find something that’s appropriate for that moment.

It has insights and practical steps and sometimes wisdom. It has a bonus section to add to your repertoire of ways you tap into your deepest inner wisdom.

Here’s what’s new. The book is now available, not only in print form, but in Kindle and audio. I’m pleased that people who prefer the convenience of Kindle rather than print books, and people who prefer to listen rather than read, are now able to enjoy the book.

If you’d like to check out a free excerpt, click here: www.bit.ly/1MkwM6S

If you’d rather just purchase the book right now, click here:

Print or Kindle version
Audio version

There. I said it and I’m glad.

What transitions are you experiencing?

November 18, 2015 by Bonnie Hutchinson Leave a Comment

Recently someone wrote me a note about how she’s read and re-read my Transitions book and how valuable it is. I was touched by the note.

I asked what some of her favourite passages were, and here’s one that she mentioned – an explanation of Transition.

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TRANSITION is an internal process. Transition is about the meaning you make of change. Transition is a process you go through as you come to terms with inner or outer change.

Because transition is an inner process, it may be hard to describe. You may not have language to communicate the inner stirrings and shifts you experience as you move through a transition time.

The transition process results in changes within you, perhaps even a new version of you. Your perception of who you are and your place in the world may be profoundly different after a transition. Because transition is about your perceptions, intuitions, worldview and self-identity, the result of a transition may not be visible to others unless you choose to express it in some way.

A transition may be triggered by changes in an external situation, or it may be triggered because you are ready to move to a new level of development. For example, losing your job or becoming a parent is an external change that might trigger an inner process of transition. On the other hand, the adolescent transition from child to adult consciousness is pre-programmed to happen even if nothing changes in the child’s external situation. Sometimes during adulthood, even if nothing major is changing in your outer world, you may feel the stirrings of an inner transition because, “It is time.”

Transition is not inevitable. You may experience many changes but if your perceptions, emotions, ways of thinking, habits and identity remain the same, you have not experienced transition.

(Excerpt from
Transitions: Pathways to the Life and World Your Soul Desires
by Bonnie Hutchinson)

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With all the changes going on in the world, we are all impacted by big changes. We may also be experiencing changes in our personal and work lives. And sometimes, even if nothing in changing in the outer world, we can feel that something is changing within us. That can take us into the Transition zone – where we know that something is ending but we cannot be certain what is ahead. Transition times don’t have guideposts. Our usual skills and coping mechanisms may not help.

Coming soon!
The book, Transitions: Pathways to the Life and World Your Soul Desires, has insights, tools and steps to help you ride the waves of transition. The book is soon going to be available on Amazon in print, Kindle and audio forms. Watch for an announcement!

But meanwhile…

I’d love to hear from you

Are you in a transition time? And if you are, what are some of the things you notice? What’s one thing that is helping you during this time?

The Magic by Rhonda Byrne

November 12, 2015 by Bonnie Hutchinson Leave a Comment

According to Rhonda Byrne, “The Magic” is gratitude. Besides stories that illustrate the power of gratitude, she maps out a 28-day gratitude process. Every time I’ve done the process, not only has my happiness level increased every day, but something wonderful that seems miraculous has occurred during the 28 days.

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